If your life were a television show what kind of show would it be? Who are the characters?
The show’s theme song would be I Won’t Give Up by Jason Mraz.
Each episode would start with an opening monologue in the form of me narrating/typing the beginning of a blog post (like how Doogie Howser did with his journal) and each show would end with the conclusion of the blog entry. This would also be reminiscent of how Meredith Grey narrates Grey’s Anatomy.
As the main character, I am a stay at home mom who resides in Chicago, Illinois with my husband and two living children. I have learned a lot from dealing with secondary infertility, pregnancy loss and neonatal death during five years of my adult life. I am a woman who loves to write, teaches group fitness classes part time and is forever trying to live up to my own expectations of being a good wife, mother, daughter, sister, aunt, friend and neighbor. I have a strong faith and consider myself a practicing and questioning catholic.
My college sweetheart, whom I have been married to for almost twelve years and together with for close to sixteen, is another central character. Though we have our moments, as all couples do, he is my best friend and our relationship is a great example of how partners’ personalities, strengths and weaknesses can balance each other out. Bob tends to be more reserved and laid back. I tend to be more outgoing and high strung. He helps keep me grounded and I challenge him to expand his horizons. He was raised on the conservative end of the political spectrum and I with the mostly opposite liberal perspective on life. Together we are able to help each other understand and appreciate different points of view. Over the years this has made us both more moderate and realize that very little in life is black or white. There are so many shades of grey and sides to every story.
Our eight year old son Sean, two year old daughter Abby and deceased baby girl Molly are all important characters as well. Each one of our children (both living and gone too soon) have taught us so much about what is important and they bring so much love and joy to our family. There are so many wonderful and challenging aspects of life and parenting that my TV show would address both in real, comical and serious ways, as I try to do on my blog; though writing with humor is not one of my strengths.
Other characters include my parents and older sister who I have close relationships with and also live in the Chicago area. There might even be episodes that would focus on some of the things they are struggling with or celebrating in their lives. My parents’ story lines might look at the experience of aging, retirement and being grandparents. My sister and her family are trying to adopt another child, so there could be episodes telling that part of their story.
I think relationships with family, friends and even strangers are so interesting and also can be frustrating. So the TV show version of Bereaved and Blessed would dive into trying to make sense of why we do the things we do and how we get ourselves into uncomfortable situations at times, even when we have the best of intentions.
To do this, the show might include extended family members as characters, as well as friends that I have known for years and newer ones. There could be episodes that introduce people I have met through a perinatal bereavement support group that I attend monthly and/or those I connected with through blogging who get what it is like to try to find joy in the journey when life doesn’t go as we hope, dream or plan, whether because of infertility, loss or some other circumstance.
I think Bereaved and Blesssed the TV Show, similar to my blog of the same name, would be an opportunity for those who are bereaved and blessed themselves to get validation that their feelings and reactions to their life experiences are normal. I also hope that it would raise awareness about, help build compassion for and show sensitivity to those of us who are living through infertility and loss. News media, talk shows, television dramas and comedies rarely do story lines about those struggling to conceive and/sustain pregnancies well. They also don’t always portray those trying to go on with their lives after losing a child(ren) realistically. I hope that a show based on my life would do that, as I try to on my blog.
Thank you for reading. I invite you to visit my blog to find out more about what I think it means to be bereaved and blessed and I look forward to seeing you back here next Thursday and every Thursday over the next year.
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If your life was a TV show, what would it be about? Who would your main characters be?
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Kathy Benson is a bereaved and blessed mom, writer and group fitness instructor trying to live mindfully and find joy in the journey after dealing with secondary infertility and loss for five years. She lives in Chicago, Illinois with her husband and two living children.